Positive thinking doesn’t necessarily mean that you are going to close your eyes and ignore the issues in your life that need to be faced. Choosing to observe the quality of your thoughts means that you will approach your challenges in a more positive and productive way.

You can train your mind to see the infinite possibilities in each situation (along with the best outcomes), instead of instantly projecting the worst-case scenario as we usually do.

We have this underlying belief that thinking the worst keeps us safe, when in truth it only activates the overthinking mind. You ended up feeling more frustrated and stressed, suffering for things that haven’t happened yet!

Science explains that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

So, this week instead of focusing only on the things that are not working and expecting the worst outcome, become aware of your self-talk by turning negative thinking into a positive one. The process is simple, but it does take time and practice – after all, you are creating a new habit.

For instance, instead of thinking ‘there is no way it will work’, you can shift to ‘I can try to make work’. ‘It is too complicated’ can be changed to ‘let’s look from a different angle’.

Understand that some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason, and most of the time it ignores the possibilities. Having negative thoughts doesn’t necessarily mean you are a negative/ bad person, it is just a reaction from our primitive brain wanting to protect us from danger.

Please don’t expect to become an optimist overnight. With practice, eventually your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. Consequently, you will become less critical of the people and situations around you, giving more space for compassion.

‘I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become’. – Christ Gardner