Some people believe that they are always acting reasonably or defending themselves against someone, when in reality they are reacting emotionally with anger and negative emotions.

As humans we all experience emotions and most of the time handle them reasonably, however sometimes you may feel impossible to control them. You may lash out at others or lose control by exploding when something angers or upsets you.

It becomes extremely powerful to learn to respond instead of reacting if you want to improve your close relationships, and most importantly your wellbeing.

Over a period of time, aim to develop a part of you that ‘observes’ what you are thinking, feeling and doing. Instead of allowing yourself to react, notice each time you were about to react and make a note of it. Recognise what triggers you and learn to PAUSE when feeling reactive by taking a deeeep breath in and out as many times as you need.

If you know that you are prone to emotional reactions, walking away from a situation before it has a chance to spark a reaction is one method to use to avoid exploding. During this breakaway period, you can focus on your thoughts, take a moment to work through the feelings and return to the situation with a better response.

Be aware that feeling drained and depleted can make you more reactive than normal, because you have fewer energy supplies to draw on. So, this week create a daily routine that replenishes you rather than draining you – move your body, have short breaks from computer and tasks, meditate, drink lots of water, prioritise an early bedtime, and so on.

With practice as you become less reactive, you will learn to cultivate inner peace by recognising your triggers and regulating your nervous system. Self-regulation not only reduces stress, but it also keeps you calm to focus on the big picture.

‘How people treat you is their Karma; how you react is yours.’ – Wayne Dyer