Extroverts tend to be better at talking about their feelings, but practice and attention can help you if ‘having deeper conversations’ it is not your natural gift.

Being OK to express your emotions – be it through writing, body language, or talking with other people – can have some real health benefits studies have confirmed. On the other hand, repression of negative emotions increases stress, anxiety, and depression.

So how can you share your feelings in a way that it does not feel so overwhelming?

The ‘I message’ is always clean, because if you are only talking about your feelings you cannot be accusing. When you say to your partner or a good friend that you are feeling disappointed, discouraged, unsatisfied, frustrated, etc., there is an implicit accusation in this ‘expressed feeling’. Sharing your feelings is in fact the kindest way to interact, because you are expressing your authentic self instead of blaming others.

For instance when wife is waiting for her partner to enjoy dinner together, she probably would say ‘You are late, this is so frustrating’. Instead, she could say ‘I feel frustrated because I was looking forward to see you’.

It is a completely different approach. In a healthy partnership, one should always be receptive to hearing what your partner/ friend is feeling. However how you share your feelings it is what makes the communication an empowering experience.

This week pay attention to how you are sharing your feelings. Are you open and vulnerable or judgemental and accusing?

Your feelings are valid, take care of them.