Everyone is constantly experiencing both positive and negative emotions, feelings, and moods. Happiness is generally linked to experiencing more positive feelings than negative. This relates to how satisfied you feel with different areas of your life including your relationships, work, achievements, and other things that you consider important.

Studies have shown that happy people still feel the whole range of human emotions – anger, frustration, boredom, loneliness, and even sadness – from time to time. They allow themselves to feel the discomfort of their challenges while dealing with what is happening.

Our modern life has become addicted to perfection, there is no space for negative feelings. You judge, fear, supress, and distract yourself from painful emotions. No wonder why people are feeling anxious, stressed, and depressed on a regular basis.

You do not accept your sadness. Whether your addiction is food, alcohol, social media, work, shopping, or television – when faced with painful emotions, you seek distractions.

Even worst, you judge yourself for being in such negative state battling with your own mind constantly ‘what is wrong with me?’ or ‘why I can’t be happy?’.

There is a huge difference between being happy and being distracted from sadness. In fact, the more space you create for your negative feelings, the happier you become.

This week try not to judge or analyse your painful emotions, become aware of your own distractions and how you are supressing your feelings. Most importantly create space for your emotions to be recognised, felt and released by journaling, crying, singing, moving your body or simply being with them.

Even the happiest of individuals can feel down from time to time and happiness is something that all people need to consciously pursue. It all starts within.

‘Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.’ – Sigmund Freud