While most people tend to overcome some daily social situations with relative ease – regulating their emotions and acknowledging that challenges are an unavoidable part of social life – some people tend to see themselves as perpetual victims.

People who have the victim mentality often hold the belief that everyone else is the reason for their misery, and nothing they do will ever make a difference. This leaves them feeling vulnerable, which can result in difficult emotions and behaviours.

For instance, they may show little interest in trying to make changes, reacting to most life hurdles with ‘It is not my fault!’. They may reject offers of help, and it may seem like they are only interested in feeling sorry for themselves.

Most of the time people who see themselves as victims may struggle with self-confidence and self-esteem. This can make feelings of victimization even worse. It is important to remember that many people living with this mindset have faced difficult or painful life events.

That does not necessarily mean you have to take responsibility for their pain or accept their accusations and blame. Always be present and open, responding from a place of empathy while reinforcing your personal boundaries.

This week take the time to reflect on your own behaviour – can you recognise where in your life you have been playing the victim lately? For example, do you take everything personally or do you consider that it is more likely that your friend is just having a bad day? Are you taking responsibilities for things that are not working for you, or you are constantly blaming somebody else?

‘The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.’ – Dr Steve Maraboli