Buddhist Psychology theory believes our psychological state depends not so much on our circumstances, but more on how we relate to what life brings our way. It explains that physical and emotional pain is an unavoidable aspect of life, but suffering is not. Suffering arises from desires. When we release our attachments, we are free of suffering.

Well easy said than done, right?

We humans have a strong desire to control things – to hang on to what we want and push away what is unpleasant, and that is what gets us into trouble. We then experience personal suffering through anxiety, depression, fear, confusion, grief, anger, hurt, addiction, jealousy, and frustration.

So how can we release our attachments? By becoming aware of our unconscious patterns.

From the Buddhist perspective, awareness is cultivated through mindfulness practice by paying attention to the present moment with a sense of openness, non-judgment, and compassion for whatever is arising.

When you accept what is in every moment, you can gain perspective that is often otherwise obscured through ‘identification and attachment’. In other words, when you are not present enough, you become so immersed in your dramas that you feel it is you, in contrast to seeing it for what it is – an experience.

This week pay attention to how you are creating attachments in your daily life. What dramas are you hanging on to? Is your desire serving you or making you and others suffer? What you need to let go?

Through daily presence you can reshape the automatic, unconscious structures of the mind. Aspects of experience to which you were entirely blind come into view, and the ability to choose inner peace instead of unconscious suffering becomes strengthened.

‘It is not what you look at that matters, it is what you see.’ – Henry David Thoreau