We all compare ourselves to others, whether it is comparing our looks to those we see in the social media or our talents to those we work with.

Modern psychology explains that some comparisons might make you feel inadequate and less likely to pursue your goal, while others give you confidence and help boost your self-esteem. It is important to understand that comparison is a natural social human behaviour that helps our species to develop new ways to respond to our environment – an evolutionary need to protect oneself and assess threats.

However, in a world where followers and likes are used to define a person’s worth, comparison can become a killer. The everyday comparisons can be harmful when they leave you feeling chronically inferior or depressed.

Let’s face it – the distorted reality that is displayed on social media is almost perfectly constructed to make viewers feel deficient and discouraged. People are most likely to share peak experiences and flattering news about themselves.

The mental health of those prone to negative comparison can be seriously compromised as a result.

The greatest protection against falling into the comparison trap is to develop and maintain a stable sense of self. That means cultivating your identity and self-esteem, nourishing relationships with people who see the real you, and staying attuned to your truest beliefs.

This week ask yourself: ‘Do I seek to feel good about myself through social rewards, or I can rely on more stable ways of recognising myself?’…’Can I be proud of who I am without social recognition?’.

A stable sense of self comes from thinking about who you are absent any feedback. Seek connection, not comparison. Be grateful for who you are becoming and use your own personal story for internal evaluation.

Everyone’ life is different, and no one’s is perfect.