How many times you catch yourself having these thoughts throughout the day ‘I shouldn’t have said that’ or ‘What are they going to think about me’?

Guilt is an emotional state where we experience inner conflict.

You may feel guilt for a variety of reasons – for things you have done in the past (or think that you have done), a failure to do something you should have done, or thoughts that you think are morally wrong.

The positive side of it is your guilt has a purpose. It is an emotional warning sign that helps you to re-examine your behaviour, so that you do not end up making the same mistake twice.

However, when you do not allow space for mistakes (expecting too much from yourself and others while over analysing everything), your guilt then becomes unhealthy and out of proportion. It creates this underlying reason for acute distress. You become over sensitive, unable to make big decisions, and disconnected from your own feelings.

A healthy and appropriate guilt helps us to redirect our behavioural compass. For instance, if you did something wrong or hurtful, accept that you cannot change the past. You can only make amends for your behaviour. When it is appropriate apologize (or make-up for the inappropriate behaviour), then let it go. Keeping obsessing about it without action is what drains your energy.

This week pay attention to how you are judging yourself and how you are processing your feelings of guilt. Can you forgive yourself? The key here is to develop self-compassion: realize your mistakes, but accept that you are only human.