Passive aggressive people tend to express their negative feelings harmfully, but indirectly. Instead of dealing with issues, they behave in ways that veil their hostility and mask their discontent.

You cannot become a peacemaker without communication. Silence is a passive aggressive way to start a conflict without taking the responsibility for starting.

When we are not encouraged to be open and honest about our feelings from an early age, we might use passive aggressive behaviour as an alternative to addressing issues head-on.

Passive aggressive people often have difficulty taking responsibility for their own actions, and blame others for their mistakes. They mask their real feelings by saying that things ‘are fine’ when their actions contradict their words.

This type of behaviour consumes unnecessary time and resources. It drains your energy. That is the reason why it is so important to be very clear when communicating your own needs. Kindly say what you mean – resolve the issue, so you can move on without resentments and misunderstandings.

If you are constantly dealing with passive aggressive behaviour, stay present with an open heart. Let the person know that it is safe for them to share their issues with you without judgements. You would rather hear their problems to clarify them, rather than let them bubble under the surface. Make sure you encourage open, two-way communication and create space for active listening.

People need to feel safe first to share their vulnerable feelings.

You can always seek professional help to assist you in this process. Therapy provides a safe space to help you improve your relationships, learn more about yourself, and become confident to address difficult situations.