When you avoid the slightest disagreement, you are compromising your true feelings and storing up frustration that can end up negatively affecting your health.
Avoiding conflict can manifest in our romantic relationships, friendships, work life, and even family dynamics. 

Being conflict avoidant also impacts our relationships because we are cutting off all honest communication with the other person. While avoidance sometimes seems like the best way to deal with conflict, in the long run it ends up harming our intimacy. 

Why we don’t speak up?

People fear rejection in any form of human interaction. The same pathways are activated when we are rejected as when we are experiencing physical pain.

This is why rejection hurts so much.

If we fear that speaking up will lead to rejection, we may give up our voice, silence our voice or speak our voice in an inauthentic way. This decision to silence our voice leads to illness, failure, and a disempowered life.

Along my journey, I have discovered that being outspoken requires three things – the courage to speak up, the courage to listen, and the courage to stay in discovery until you find the best way for your voice to be heard. I call that inner wisdom.

It is important to understand that listening is not an end, but part of a dynamic process that creates space for growth and engagement. The more you listen, the easier it will be to express your thoughts and the way you feel.

People thrive on connection and appreciation, not criticism and judgment. When we listen to connect, we create a bridge to share each other’s minds without judgment. Most importantly, we speak from a place of authenticity without fear.