In times of digital life, words dominate our interactive space, and their power is readily amplified. However, the human nature often speaks more truthfully through actions than words – they also happen first and faster.

How people act and react to the world around them shapes how they think.

When attentively observing one’s state of mind, their body language will certainly tell you more than their words. People say a lot, so learn to watch what they do.

Usually, we are not aware of our gestures, just as we are not usually aware of selecting words as we talk. Quite often, information is expressed in gesture that does not find its way to words.

Gestures are often more precise than words, and certainly more direct.

The same principle applies in the realm of self-understanding as well. If you want to explore your priorities, your beliefs, and what is important to you, then I invite you to look at your behaviour.

You may surprise yourself.

For instance, if you feel that your romantic partners repeatedly mistreat you, then your goal may be to feel mistreated. The question then is not ‘Why am I failing to find good love?’, but rather ‘What is it about being unloved that I find gratifying?’.

The point here is to recognise how behaviour does not only reflect our character, values and attitudes but may help create them. To understand people (including ourselves) better, it becomes essential to observe the human behaviour as a guide.

Forgiveness requires more than just an apology. It requires action.