We are all social beings whose behaviour is shaped to some extent by the roles we play. Such roles as manager, housewife, nurse, father, or member of the football team not only help others to recognize us but also help us to know what is expected of us in various situations.

We know ourselves well when playing those roles on daily basis. We understand the dynamics, our behaviours and what to do next, because we have been doing it for a while.

We become the roles we play.

My question is who are you without your roles? When you don’t have to play your roles, what remains?

Who are you in your essence?

Although most people believe that they are self-aware, true self-understanding is a rare quality. Self-understanding represents how clearly you see your own values, passions, aspirations, fit with your environment, reactions (including thoughts, feelings, behaviours, strengths, and weaknesses), and impact on others.

Research suggests that when we see ourselves clearly, we are more confident and more creative. We make sounder decisions, build stronger relationships, and communicate more effectively. Self-understanding eliminates overthinking, stress, agitation, insomnia, emotional eating, and so on.

When you become aware of who you really aware, you become aware of your choices. 

Every day we have an opportunity to understand ourselves deeper – everything that irritates you about others can lead to an understanding of yourself.

Next time you find yourself facing an uncomfortable and difficult situation, instead of playing the victim role ‘Why is this happen to me again?’ claim your self-awareness ‘How is this happening for me? What am I learning here about myself?’.